am i really so oblivious??!

So Tramaine let me know she has been feeling concerning me..And once again I am left feeling like I am the meanest person ever..  I didn't realize that I was not offering to help her I guess in the same way she helped me when I lost my other job...I'm sorry I'm not more comfortable offering help I guess..And I didn't know that I wasn't being as forth coming I guess with help or support or whatever...I don't realize that stuff..somehow I just miss it and don't realize that I'm not doing something..or that I'm acting a certain way...it's not that I don't care or won't do something...it's just that I get stuck in my mood and can't separate how I am acting versus how I am actually feeling...My shutting down I guess seems or presents as me not caring maybe? I don't know...I kept my silence and let her speak..Maybe I'll tell her what I am upset with her about...who knows