Tuesday, May 14, 2013

and this is where i am....today

I have been thinking about this alot since yesterday and after the stressful weekend that has caused some changes inside. T and the med doc are both quite confident in 'my' ability to think things through, to stay safe. Going into the weekend the thoughts were very unsafe,negative, down right not good. I do believe that had the argument with the mother not happened, this would have turrned out differently. Acting on impulse without thinking has been the cause of a lot of unsafe behaviors. Instead of acting, ended up driving and managed to get to a place where acting out was not going to happen, at least not that day. The plans were stilll there, the thoughts still there, all weekend the thoughts overwhelmed us. Needing/wanting a way to release some of the pressure building inside..may have been really down while out of town, among other things but did not act out at all..pushed aside the things that were causing more stress..drove my sister crazy cas it was jut funny..you know just did what we needed to do inorder to get through...can home on sunday and still the thoughts of hurting and being unsafe were the dominant thoughts. we had already cancelled t in a fit of anger so who cared you know. Yesterday i called the pdoc about a med issue and talked to her just a little bit..just enough to know that things are not going great right now..and she told me to remember to think..to remember how far i have come..stuff that i would normally not even care about .. or be able to remember when am feeling way to many things..and most of them are not good things...

yes there is a point to this .heh

after talking to her and making some noncommital sounds of agreement for staying safe and everything..ir ealized that the thoughts had calmed down...the desire/urge was still present with some thoughts..but overall the need to act on them had lessened a lot...and somehow it happened without t, without s/i, without any thing that majorly was harmful at all...yes still feeling a bit down and worried about some things that are going on with work..but the acting out needs are almost gone..am isolating a bit still and planning to spend the day at home again..but compared to what was being planned..ill take the staying at home..really i will..

i can look at it and at least acknowledge that maybe t is slightly, just a little bit right....we can manage..and we can deal with and get through the harder things..it may take time and a lot of writing and suport from other places (like here and some friends on fb and things)..but going back to the old ways didnt happen...

it is a little mind boggling really...to be able to see and understand that we got through it...am getting through it...and managing.

I told the guy at work yesterday that I didnt want to talk about my weekend and he respected that..and didnt push...sometimes no i cant hide the sadness..the anger yes ..except on fb ..but well thats a different story compeltely! the sadness just seeps out.until it has run its course..and we have to ride the wave until we can get to the other side...

this is good? this makes sense?

there is no t this week...kept that session cancelled..but will reschedule for next week, as now i need to talk to her..to get some sort of direction/guidance...to figure out where i really stand with all of this...im not ready to admit that she is right...not to her anyway :P...but i can consider the option that maybe being in t weekly is no longer needed...


just a lot of thinking this morning..

thanks for listening.

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