i was watching something yesterday about forgiveness and ive been thinking about it because i cant decide how i really feel with it..
why do you forgive? whats the point of you know just forgiving someone for something they have done or them hurting you? maybe im seeing forgiving as forgetting and thats not how it is supposed to be..
but basically what i got yesterday is that you are supposed to forgive for yourself not for the other person who you are upset with...its not about them.its about you and well you ability to be able to move on with your life instead of staying stuck and mad and just upset with everything...
i guess it makes me mad thinking about it..cas i want to be mad at them..i want to hate them and blame them for what they did..not for who i am..which is two different issues i think..but being mad at them doesnt so a thing to them..nothing at all..all it does is keep me stuck and hurt and ashamed of myself..but im not sure i can forgive them either..
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You are right... The anger keeps us in the pain; forgiveness helps us let it go - but it is a difficult thing. Forgiving doesn't mean that what they did isn't wrong and hurtful and worth your anger. But (in my faith) God is the one to deal with them. And the phrase in the Lord's Prayer - Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sinned against us... is another reason to forgive. We have all made mistakes and hurt others. God will forgive us, but He expects us to be merciful and forgive also. He not only asks us to forgive but to also "love our enemies"! But He doesn't expect that to be an overnight process. As I've gone through life so far, I've had some situations where I've been able to reach that level though praying for the "enemy". Somehow, when you pray for someone, it helps you let go of the anger. And it's a thing that only comes when you've committed yourself to following in Christ's ways and you have the help of God's Holy Spirit. I don't mean to be preachy - just to explain how it's worked for me. I can ONLY forgive through God's spirit within me. I couldn't do it on my own. Once I have forgiven, I do have a peace that is unexplainable. Of course, the non-believers have adopted the basic ideas of forgiveness being important to be able to move on - but they don't have the essential part of God's help in doing so. I guess people can reach some level of that on their own - though I doubt they could go on to the "love" portion without God's Spirit dwelling within. Anyway, I think you're right on track. If you want to read some cool biblical parable from Jesus that illustrate this, let me know and I'll give you some chapters/verses to looks at. Love you.
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